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Offering thanks amidst our tears

Indigenous and ancient peoples have always given thanks. In the northeast where the Pilgrims first met the Wampanoag (near where I grew up), the arguable “first Thanksgiving” was certainly not a new idea. The practice was deeply engrained in both the European and Native cultures. In fact, much like the Europeans, the Native peoples of what was eventually renamed New England already held several thanksgiving events throughout their year – both scheduled seasonally and at special times of celebration. Although today you will often hear of protests from the Native peoples in Massachusetts regarding the myths, particularly the cultural misunderstandings and stereotypical images, of that historic event and the very real, terrible offenses that came afterward, they never protest the concept of giving thanks. Christian or not, Native peoples know it is good to give thanks just as their ancestors did and they still do. It is an ancient practice all cultures have in common at some level. Thanks can be offered even as we acknowledge great sadness in our lives – even amidst tears for those who went before us and sad if not horific events that cannot be undone. Giving thanks seems to build our resilience as individuals, families, and peoples. Indeed, some studies even suggest thankful people are healthier and live longer, more satisfied lives! I suspect that the First Nations have survived in the face of many evils partly because they understand and value the sacred nature of giving thanks for their ancestors and today.

When the Ark of the Covenant was first brought into Jerusalem, King David initiated ongoing cultic prayers by commanding, “O give thanks to the Lord, call on his name, make known his deeds among the peoples. Sing to him, sing praises to him, tell of all his wonderful works” (1 Chronicles 16:7-9). The Psalms and New Testament scriptures echo this sentiment in many places for the community and individual. Paul sounds much like King David when he urges all Christians, “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

Still, it remains true that it can be easier giving thanks when times are good. So, it can be helpful for us to intentionally live into our thanksgiving even if we don’t much feel like it. Yes, we should be honest about our pain. We can and should confess the sins of our past. We might like to even remember past hard times or hurt visited upon us. Yet, we can still consider the signs of blessing that are there to be found behind, around, and before each and every one of us. How have such hard times made us stronger or more empathetic? What have we learned, and how can our past curse become blessing for ourselves and others? Do the experiences of our ancestors or our own experiences reveal something sacred in and through the pain? We can reminisce about the photos and relics of our past that remind us of the love we have experienced as a gift. We can make lists of or talk about signs of hope in our darkness trusting all the while that Jesus has promised healing and hope lie before us. We can celebrate our ancestors strengths even as we acknowledge their frail, misguided humanity. Such practices help open our eyes and our hearts to the truth that even when seemingly hidden, God is at work. God is at work for us.

It has been a long couple of years. As with many of you, I will miss people I’ve lost at my table and in my life. Yet how much poorer would my life be if their loving witness hadn’t touched me? There are things to be afraid of, but Jesus says, “Fear not. I am with you.” I fall short in many ways, but I can trust as scripture promises that I am forgiven through trusting in what Christ has done. Therefore, I am enough. Whatever our circumstance, we can strive to give thanks just because we can trust what Jesus promised remains true – this seeking to trust being a sign of the Spirit’s active presence in our lives as well. We can rejoice, Jesus says, “for the Father himself loves you, because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.” Whoever you are, whatever has been done to you or left undone, or wherever you have fallen short, I wish you and all those you love a blessed Thanksgiving filled with such a love. There remain reasons to give thanks even amidst any tears, for even the sadest parts of our lives have meaning. They help make us who we are.

Adapted from an original pastoral letter published in the November 2021 newsletter of Christ Lutheran Church, Fredericksburg, VA.

Unless otherwise indicated, all scripture quotations for this post are from the New Revised Standard Version (NRSV) translation.

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